The alternative title for this entry is “Three Months in India in One Pair of Shoes.” That’s right, I dislike shoe shopping so much that I have walked the only pair of shoes (sandals) that I bought with me to India into pieces.
So three months have quickly gone by and tomorrow I leave India for the States. Below is a jumble of random thoughts that I want to share. I’ve sort of organized them into categories for your convenience.
FINAL DAYS TRAVELING
- I enjoyed the many audio tours that I took in the palaces and forts of Rajasthan. Coming to India has exposed to me to so much history (among other things) that I had no or very little previous exposure to. One story from the audio tour in Jodhpur that I liked was about a visit by the king of Jodhpur’s mother to London in the late 1800s. One of the ways the Mughals influenced Rajasthan was the introduction of purdah, women being concealed from men by clothing, separate parts of the house, etc. When the king’s mother visited London, she kept completely veiled provoking fierce curiosity among the people of London and leading for the tabloids to try really hard to try to get a photo of her. One photographer succeeded in getting a photo of her ankle and the paper printed it, but before the paper could reach India, the royal family bought up all the copies in disgust.
THINGS THAT ARE ODD
- I don’t know if this is an example of the sometimes archaic English spoken in India, but when asking your name, Indians will frequently ask for your “good name” and I’ve even been asked for my “sweet name” before.
- I also don’t know if my bargaining skills have gotten any better, but one of my favorite bargaining experiences was in Calcutta when I was looking for a backpack for Nikita. The man quoted some outrageously high price and I told him it was outrageous. In an attempt to justify the high price the man said, “but it’s foreign quality!” And I said what, “made in China.” And he said yes and eventually we got the synthetic backpack down to a reasonable price.
- While shopping, there’s an expression that I hear a lot from the shopkeepers that I don’t really understand. When looking at fabrics, for example, I might be looking at two that look the same to me and the shopkeeper will say, “same same, but different.”
BEST ADVICE I GOT BEFORE COMING
- When I was watching Om Shanti Om (Bollywood movie) with Sally and there was a scene of a street in Mumbai, Sally said, “if that were really India there’d be about a hundred stray dogs on that street.” India’s a beautiful country, but I think when she said that it made me realize that I probably had a romanticized view of India. Also, there ARE a lot of stray dogs here whereas the other animals that wander the streets, chickens, goats, sheep, pigs, cows, horses, camels, etc. all belong to someone.
IF YOU COME TO INDIA
- You’ll hear sentences starting with “madam, rickshaw” or “madam, take a look at my shop, just look, no buy” too many times to count
- I think my knowledge of Bollywood films and Hindi music really helped me. It gave me something to talk about with a lot Indians besides my name, country, occupation and whether I like India (one can only have so many of those conversations).
BIGGEST LESSON I’VE LEARNED : Patience. If you get too worked up or expect too much, you’ll probably dislike India.
OTHER THOUGHTS
- Don’t take sanitation and waste management for granted! One of the most striking things in India is the lack of proper sanitation facilities (and people going to the bathroom all over the streets) and the amount of litter everywhere. I think if someone really wanted to do something productive in India, they would address these issues, but obviously it’s hard because they’re on such a wide scale and terribly unglamorous. On a related note, I saw an interview with Shahrukh Khan the other day in which he said that if he became President of India, the first thing he would do was to provide toilets for women, especially in rural areas. SRK put your money where your mouth is and start building!
- There are a lot of people here and I think about population issues with some frequency. Many children here seem to go to school either in the morning or the afternoon and during the part of the day they’re not at school, they’re helping in their family shop, restaurant, etc. I wonder, in a country where unemployment is over 20% (I realize this might not mean much because of the numbers of people who work informally) and where half the population is under 16 years old, where the jobs will come from for all these people. Also! It’s good that so many people own scooters instead of cars, I can’t even imagine what the impact of increased car ownership will be.
- Most of the Indians who I’ve talked to consider themselves black and, for whatever it’s worth, are really excited about President Obama.
Traveling to India has taught me so much, but after three months, I’m ready to come home, celebrate the holidays with my family and friends, and spend more than one or two nights in the same bed. Thanks for reading and thank you to everyone who posted comments; I really enjoyed reading them.








